Many folks (including some massage therapists) view massage as a way to fix what ails you.
Fixing is something you do to something that is broken. A mechanic fixes your car. A plumber fixes your leaky pipe.
I understand what you mean when you say your back hurts and you want me to get rid of those “knots”, to fix it. But you’re not broken, and thinking that way robs you of your power. The words we use matter.
I’m not here to fix you. You won’t hear me calling myself a healer. My hands (and feet) aren’t magic. It would be nice if I could just push on the right areas and work out those “knots” and you’d be healed! The body is too complex for that, I’m afraid.
You come in and you’re in pain and you want it to stop. I get it. Pain sucks. But I can’t force your body to do anything.
I’m here to support you, to hear you, to see you.
To empower you.
You might think “if you’re not fixing my pain, why the heck am I getting a massage?”
Don’t get me wrong, massage can help you feel better, but I think we can ask a better question.
So often, we focus on how we don’t want to feel. What if we thought about it from a different angle?
What if you started thinking about how you want to feel?
Not less stressed or in less pain. Not running away from something.
But more of something? Moving toward what you want.
I view massage as a conversation between my hands and feet and your nervous system. I’m manipulating your soft tissues as a way to communicate to your nervous system that it’s okay to relax, that you can feel differently. We’re co-creating a new way of feeling, you and I.
We’re creating ease and freedom in your body.
The words we use matter.
What if you challenged your story of your pain? What if that shoulder wasn’t your “bad” shoulder?
You’re in a lot of pain and you think you need someone (your massage therapist, your doctor, your chiropractor) to “fix” you. When you come to me to “fix” something, that’s perpetuating a cycle that ultimately keeps you stuck in your stress or pain.
But what if, instead of running away from your pain, instead of trying to “fix” what isn’t broken, we worked on moving toward something desirable, like creating more freedom in your body?
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